"On January 5, 1993, a 22-year-old pre-operative transsexual woman from Seattle, Filisa Vistima, wrote in her journal, “I wish I was anatomically ‘normal’ so I could go swimming… . But no, I’m a mutant, Frankenstein’s monster.” Two months later Filisa Vistima committed suicide. What drove her to such despair was the exclusion she experienced in Seattle’s queer community, some members of which opposed Filisa’s participation because of her transsexuality — even though she identified as and lived as a bisexual woman. The Lesbian Resource Center where she served as a volunteer conducted a survey of its constituency to determine whether it should stop offering services to male-to-female transsexuals. Filisa did the data entry for tabulating the survey results; she didn’t have to imagine how people felt about her kind. The Seattle Bisexual Women’s Network announced that if it admitted transsexuals the SBWN would no longer be a women’s organization. “I’m sure,” one member said in reference to the inclusion of bisexual transsexual women, 4 6 the boys can take care of themselves.” Filisa Vistima was not a boy, and she found it impossible to take care of herself. Even in death she found no support from the community in which she claimed membership. “Why didn’t Filisa commit herself for psychiatric care?” asked a columnist in the Seattle Gay News. “Why didn’t Filisa demand her civil rights?” In this case, not only did the angry villagers hound their monster to the edge of town, they reproached her for being vulnerable to the torches. Did Filisa Vistima commit suicide, or did the queer community of Seattle kill her? (4)"
TW: Transmisogyny, Transphobia, Suicide
i’ve been talking around this for a long time but yes the systematic desexualisation and segregation of trans women from communities of intimacy and care literally makes us die so haha
I brought this up recently, although I don’t remember to whom or in what context, beyond pointing out ways cis women have caused the deaths of trans women.
Anonymous said: I just told my girlfriends mother that her son is actually her daughter and I am so relieved I could cry. I just had to share with someone how insanely proud and in love I am with her.
I’m confused? you just outted your partner to their parents?????
Anonymous said: Along with the phalloplasty surgeons, I'd love a list for vaginoplasty surgeons.
This too please! If anyone has a good and up-to-date directory of safe vaginoplasty surgeons (around the world rather than just US would be awesome) please let me know so I can post the links!
Anonymous said: You know what is frustrating? I would love to find a resource that listed all the surgeons in the United States for phalloplasty procedures. That way, we could compare results, costs, and procedures. Do you know of anything like this?
If anyone knows of any up-to-date directories or resources for something like this please let me know.
Anonymous said: Heyo, I just wanted some advice, lately my bestfriend has been talking a lot about trans people and asking questions about it, but in a way to try and get to know how I feel about it better. But sometimes the questions or comments come off as rude/disrespectful to me and they make me uncomfortable/upset. I was just wondering how I should tell them without offending them or coming off as rude.
If a friend of yours is asking questions and making comments about trans issues that are disrespectful and/or rude then you shouldn’t be worried about offending them if you want to call them out and let them know that they’re being shitty. Straight up tell them “hey, when you talk about this stuff you do it in a really disrespectful and ignorant way and it makes me uncomfortable, can you not do that?”
Thank you so much, I love you all!