Anonymous said: Along with the phalloplasty surgeons, I'd love a list for vaginoplasty surgeons.
This too please! If anyone has a good and up-to-date directory of safe vaginoplasty surgeons (around the world rather than just US would be awesome) please let me know so I can post the links!
Anonymous said: You know what is frustrating? I would love to find a resource that listed all the surgeons in the United States for phalloplasty procedures. That way, we could compare results, costs, and procedures. Do you know of anything like this?
If anyone knows of any up-to-date directories or resources for something like this please let me know.
hi, im tumblr user jobhaver aka rebeka refuse. im posting a surgery fundraiser on this website today for facial feminization surgeries. i want to be able to afford feminizing surgical procedures for my face because, as a trans woman, i experience extreme dysphoria about my face.
the way my face looks is my number one source of dysphoria and it interferes with my life often. for quite a long period of time i refused to leave the house at all because i didn’t want anyone to see my face. i get extremely upset often, often to the point of tears, when i see my face in mirrors or photographs. i get extremely anxious when people look at me, even sometimes people who are very close to me, because i dont want them seeing my face the way that i see it.
the primary reason i stopped working in the service industry and started doing ‘adult work’ was because i wasn’t making a living wage before and so it would have been impossible for me to afford the surgery i needed to treat my dysphoria and feel comfortable with how i looked and less anxious and self conscious about it.
i have been working in the adult industry for approximately a year now and have escalated my involvement into more and more risky forms of sex work multiple times, each time fueled by an experience of intense dysphoria and despair over being no closer to my goal of being able to afford surgery for myself. despite the fact i am trying to do just about every form of adult work i can think of and am capable of doing, and am now making a living wage, i still am no closer to my goal of saving for this surgery.
i really need help with this, because its theoretically an obtainable thing that can treat my dysphoria, and because it has been out of my reach for so long. the fact that despite so much effort to further my career in the adult industry i am still nowhere closer to getting these procedures has been extremely depressing. im not food unstable or homeless or anything like that anymore, but this is something that i need badly and have needed badly for years and can’t afford.
please donate a little bit if you can afford it and if not please signal boost this for me. thank you so much <3
Anonymous said: Heyo, I just wanted some advice, lately my bestfriend has been talking a lot about trans people and asking questions about it, but in a way to try and get to know how I feel about it better. But sometimes the questions or comments come off as rude/disrespectful to me and they make me uncomfortable/upset. I was just wondering how I should tell them without offending them or coming off as rude.
If a friend of yours is asking questions and making comments about trans issues that are disrespectful and/or rude then you shouldn’t be worried about offending them if you want to call them out and let them know that they’re being shitty. Straight up tell them “hey, when you talk about this stuff you do it in a really disrespectful and ignorant way and it makes me uncomfortable, can you not do that?”
Thank you so much, I love you all!
Anonymous said: do you promote gofundme accounts? or is that too promotional for you guys? Thanks! :-)
It depends. Message me off anon.
Anonymous said: How can I post a story from my tumblr to your for others to see?
Message me off anon.
kantex-wolf said: Hey, my dad doesn't sent believe that I am transgender and says "you will always be my little girl" which hurts me but if I try to explain I know my dad is going to hurt more because he has always though about me being his "little girl" What do I do?
I don’t know your dad and I don’t know the overall situation but maybe just tell him you appreciate the sentiment but how it also makes you uncomfortable?
Anonymous said: Hello, a few days ago one of my best friends told me and his closest friends that he was transgender and had picked a new name. I love my friend to death and I am doing my best to be supportive but I keep slipping up and using his old name. When this happens I either correct myself or he will correct me but I keep messing up and feeling like a terrible friend. Do you have any advice on how I can improve upon my tendencies and also any advice for how to be there for my friend. Thank you so much.
Let them know you’re trying and apologise for using the incorrect pronouns, don’t make the situation about you, and actually try to use the correct pronouns. There aren’t any “tips & tricks” I can give you on how to use/remember the correct pronouns. That’s all on you.