Anonymous said: Heyo, I just wanted some advice, lately my bestfriend has been talking a lot about trans people and asking questions about it, but in a way to try and get to know how I feel about it better. But sometimes the questions or comments come off as rude/disrespectful to me and they make me uncomfortable/upset. I was just wondering how I should tell them without offending them or coming off as rude.
If a friend of yours is asking questions and making comments about trans issues that are disrespectful and/or rude then you shouldn’t be worried about offending them if you want to call them out and let them know that they’re being shitty. Straight up tell them “hey, when you talk about this stuff you do it in a really disrespectful and ignorant way and it makes me uncomfortable, can you not do that?”
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kantex-wolf said: Hey, my dad doesn't sent believe that I am transgender and says "you will always be my little girl" which hurts me but if I try to explain I know my dad is going to hurt more because he has always though about me being his "little girl" What do I do?
I don’t know your dad and I don’t know the overall situation but maybe just tell him you appreciate the sentiment but how it also makes you uncomfortable?
Anonymous said: Hello, a few days ago one of my best friends told me and his closest friends that he was transgender and had picked a new name. I love my friend to death and I am doing my best to be supportive but I keep slipping up and using his old name. When this happens I either correct myself or he will correct me but I keep messing up and feeling like a terrible friend. Do you have any advice on how I can improve upon my tendencies and also any advice for how to be there for my friend. Thank you so much.
Let them know you’re trying and apologise for using the incorrect pronouns, don’t make the situation about you, and actually try to use the correct pronouns. There aren’t any “tips & tricks” I can give you on how to use/remember the correct pronouns. That’s all on you.
Anonymous said: I'm a trans man and have been on T for two years. I had unprotected sex with a trans woman three months ago. She has been on hormones for two years as well. What are the chances that I could be pregnant? I don't want to buy a test and feel dysphoric if it's not likely.
I think it depends on the dosage and other variables like that. Most trans women will become sterile (let me know if this is the wrong term) in about 3 months? For trans men it’s more up in the air I think? I don’t have much knowledge in this stuff. But what I honestly think you should do is talk to a healthcare professional that you trust and then go from there.
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Anonymous said: I'm getting into a relationship with a male (I am a female) who considers himself trans. I think this is amazing and I love the chance to be with him, but he wants me to get a strap-on so we can have sex this way, because he prefers it. The thing is, I am not comfortable with this. How do I tell him this without seeming judgmental or bitchy?
I don’t know your partner and I don’t know you so it’s hard for me to give advice like this but to put it simply, talk to him. Explain how you feel uncomfortable about it, talk it out. That’s all you really can do. I hope this helps.
Anonymous said: One of my closest friends is a pre-op trans male, using the pronoun "they." When I'm referring to them in the past - when they identified as a girl - am I supposed to use "she" or "they?"
If their preferred pronoun is they/them, then you use they. Never use a pronoun that someone does not prefer. Even if you’re talking about them in the past, it’s disrespectful.
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